If you believe that “YOU GET TO” decide how you're going to respond to a particular situation and that you are in control of your own emotions in response to any given situation, then you're going to love this next blog post and video. If on the other hand, you think that you don't have control over the way that you respond to a particular situation and that you are victimized by whatever is happening in your life, well you might like this video and blog post too!
We’re going to look at what I consider one of the most important questions whenever we're faced with a challenge, “Am I available for the struggle?”
In the last couple of years I have faced some of my biggest challenges and sometimes I look back at those periods of time and think, “Could I have done that better? Could I have responded any differently?” And I was just sitting here journaling and thinking, “I want to do a video, but what do I want to talk about?” And the question of “Am I available for a struggle?” has just been present. As I journaled and got clear on my message for you today, I wanted to bring that up and I wanted to pose it in a different way. To look at what it means to really get our own emotions and our own responses to whatever struggle it is that we're facing together. Because that is the one thing that we do have control over.
So many things in our lives can come up that we have absolutely no control over. But the one thing that we can control is our response to something and what we choose to make it mean. So often when we're faced with struggle, we say to ourselves, “Well, it's a struggle”. And so everything about it is going to be a struggle. We say, “I don't anticipate winning this one, or I don't think that this is going to turn out to be successful. So I'm just going to go with the flow and be on the struggle bus.”
I don't believe that. I think that we all have the ability to decide what we're available for, including the responses to any particular situation. The issue may be a challenge, it might be something out of your control, but how you respond to it changes everything.
Let me give you an example. I have a condo in Florida and I’ve been sitting in the question as to whether or not I'm going to make it available for vacation rentals. If I actually just want to keep it and, and return there occasionally, or if I want to put it on the market. Every time I thought about what to do with it, it felt like such a struggle to even get into decision around it. I was putting up more resistance to making a decision, which then felt like struggle.
Finally, I got really clear about what it is that I desire, what experience do I want to have regardless of my decision to rent or to sell. When I think about it, how do I want to feel?
Up until that point, I had assigned struggle to the decision. And so it was a struggle for me and it would make my stomach hurt and get tense and I would be worried about it. Those are all struggle emotions. I had to seriously get with myself and decide that the decision could be pleasurable, enjoyable and fun. That it could be exciting if I were to assign anything other than struggle, everything opposite of struggle.
These are the questions and decisions that I'm asking you to make about the situations you are struggling with. If I'm going to choose an emotion other than struggle, and it's going to be positive, what is that emotion? How am I going to feel about this particular event? What would make me feel better? How could I feel excited or supported or clear or comfortable? Give yourself the permission to think about things other than struggle or hardship.
You get to choose. It's all up to you. You get to decide how you want to feel about a particular thing and remaining in the struggle is your decision. I'm a strong believer in the law of attraction and so if you've assigned a feeling about struggle to something, what do you think the results are going to be? We get what we focus on.
Are you available for the struggle? And if not then choose to feel differently, find a different emotion that is opposite of struggle and allow yourself to experience that. What I do know to be true is at least your experience about that thing that you've given the assignment to is going to be so much better if you choose things like pleasure, enjoyment, ease, flow, excitement, and confirmation around what you want to experience.
I hope this blog post and video has been helpful for you. Leave a comment below and let me know what YOU choose to feel in the face of challenging situations.
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